For most of my life, I have worn my experiences like armor. I served in the Marine Corps for nine years, four of which were spent focused on physical and emotional healing. During that time, I learned the importance of resilience and the value of vulnerability. These lessons have shaped who I am today and continue to guide me toward personal growth.
The Pain of Acceptance
The truth can hurt deeply. It forces us to confront uncomfortable realities about ourselves, our families, and our histories. However, once we come to terms with it, we find we can do something meaningful with that pain. True healing often calls for a distance from toxic relationships and those we love, which is a reality many people shy away from discussing.
Healing is a personal journey that extends beyond the individual but can also significantly impact those around us. At times, it's important to create distance from our closest family members or lifelong friends. This situation can lead to conflict, mainly when some individuals are not ready to confront their truths. It's a challenging process, as many people cling to comforting illusions that provide a sense of safety—mentally, emotionally, or financially. Approaching these moments with compassion and understanding is necessary for ourselves and others.
Finding Your Tribe
Throughout this journey, I've learned that it's crucial to surround ourselves with supportive communities—our "tribe." That support has often come from individuals outside my racial or cultural background. They see my struggle and honor my journey without the baggage that sometimes comes from shared histories. The support from those who may not share my experiences has often felt more genuine. They approach my story openly and clearly, without preconceived notions or cultural biases. It's a reminder that our connections shouldn't be limited by race or background but by shared values of empathy, respect, and a willingness to learn from one another.
A Thank You to My Ancestors 💝💐
I often communicate with my ancestors, expressing gratitude for their choices and sacrifices. I say, "Thank you for choosing me." This sentiment reflects my belief that my healing journey is not just about me—it's about healing for my entire lineage. It's a domino effect that resonates through generations. By embracing our truths and working through our pain, we contribute to collective healing. It's not easy, but it's necessary for a brighter future for ourselves and those who come after us.
Conclusion
In the end, healing is a journey—a transformative process filled with ups and downs. It begins with acknowledging and accepting our truth, even when it hurts. I'm grateful for my journey because it is necessary for my growth, but I also recognize that true healing begins when we genuinely confront our past and accept our truth. Though the journey may be difficult, the connection we build can provide relief and strength, no matter where we come from. Your truth matters, and your journey is worth sharing. Let us support one another as we strive for healing and understanding—together.
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